Today we celebrate one of the most important women in our lives. We call her ‘Mom’, ‘Mother’, ‘Mommy’ or whatever depending on the mood you’re in or more importantly, whatever mood shes in. In the U.S, Mom is the foundation that this great nation is built on, she’s the very fabric of society. Mom is the cornerstone that holds up every house, every apartment, even the condos, the churches and shopping malls. She’s there. Lets face it she’s the ‘everything’ that shelters us as children, as adults and as families.
The Institute of Mom
We don’t always agree with Mom but nine times out of ten she’ll agree with you. When those one in ten stats land and she doesn’t agree – well she’ll let you know. My reasons for writing this post have changed. I wanted to celebrate ‘Moms’ all over the U.S but she wouldn’t like that. Shes too shy, shes unassuming and overly modest. She never quite grasps what all the fuss is about. Mom does what she does and she does it well.
So how do you pay homage to the ‘Institute of Mom’ especially when she doesn’t openly seek recognition, she doesn’t ask for much but certainly says a lot. Is one day a year enough to dedicate to Moms across the country?
Some of us see Mothers Day as an easy way of hiding ones guilt behind a bunch of flowers, chocolates or even a balloon ride. We can disguise those infrequent visits home to Mom and Dad with a card and a ‘well thought out’ gift picked up at the local gas station. It usually works (or so you might think).
Moms come in every shape, size and guise. There are many categories that a Mom can fall into. Let us take a look at some popular categories that we tend to pigeon hole our moms into. See if you can recognize her.
A mother is a person who seeing there are only four pieces of pie for five people, promptly announces she never did care for pie. - Tenneva Jordan
Traditional Mom (aka Super Mom)
We all have differing opinions of what a traditional mom looks like. One might say that the concept of a traditional mom stems back to 19th century Europe and America. The Industrial Revolution kept mothers at home tending to house and child and contributing to important tasks that helped ‘bring the bacon home’. There was a division of labor way back then. Childbearing and strength divided responsibilities.
Nature bestowed childbirth on women and never had a second thought. Nature never really considered men – something to do with multi-tasking (or the inability to do so) and the lack of certain essential organs. Traditional Mom was well equipped for 19th century America but did she bring her ‘A’ game to the 20th and 21st century? Of course she did.
Traditional Mom is hard-wired for life, irrespective of time. Her abilities are evergreen and can be passed on through experiences and memories. As I mentioned before traditional Moms DNA holds together the very foundation the United States sits on. She is a multi-tasker through necessity, a listener and problem solver by default.
She radiates comfort, coziness and safety but at the same can instill a fear that will stop you dead in your tracks with one irate glance. I call this ‘Gorgons Glare‘. Most women (not only mothers) possess this superpower. Some don’t even realize it yet – but they soon will. Traditional Mom is no different to any other American Superhero, in fact shes the original, the prototype.
I’d like to be the ideal mother, but I’m too busy raising my kids.- Unknown
Working Mom (aka the Juggler)
Hmmm. Now this can be a bone of contention for some. Never underestimate Working Mom. She bears many similarities to Traditional Mom but also included in her multi-functional arsenal are some authentic differences that separates her from traditional. She likes her independence and who can blame her. She craves combining motherhood with a structured work-life balance and at the same time has bills to pay and hell does she know it!
Whether she is in a relationship or not, it doesn’t really matter. She still has the same responsibilities. Shes busy 24/7 and caught between a home and a workplace. How she manages 9-to-5 on four hours sleep is anyone’s guess. Remember she does come home and tend to the little ones every need after her workday. Her day starts at 7am and ends at 10pm (ish) all depending on child’s age and countless demands. A massive hat tip to you working mom and yes, we do salute you!
Never cross her after 10pm when the kids are finally asleep. That glass of wine that she clutches with white knuckles represents her freedom and independence. The TV is the window where she momentarily escapes through. Its quickly turned from default ‘Nick Junior’ to Mom TV. This is where she forgets about everything and gathers some vital recharge time. Feet up working Mom, you deserve it.
(24/7) once you sign on to be a mother, that’s the only shift they offer – Jodi Picoult
Suburban Mom (aka Soccer Mom)
We couldn’t finish up without paying homage to Soccer Mom. How the heck would the kids get to Soccer practice after school. She must clock up 1000 miles a week. Not only soccer practice but suburban mom manages to enroll the kids into almost every pastime available (or not available). Don’t forget Dance Class, Drama, Baseball, Gymnastics, Softball, Football, Netball, Basketball, Climbing, Glee Club, Minecraft Club and the list just goes on and on. This woman is a Class A driver. She can park on a dime and has attitude to match.
You’ll see her pacing the soccer field where her kids ‘reluctantly’ play. Shes the one wearing the t-shirt emblazoned with the bold text – ”I don’t have a life. My kids play soccer”. Soccer Mom would do anything for her kids. She’d drive the length and breadth of the Usa just so her kids don’t miss out on Chess Practice or even Band Camp. Shes determined. Shes legendary. Shes Soccer Mom.
A suburban mother’s role is to deliver children obstetrically once, and by car for ever after. - Peter De Vries
So Who Wins?
Who cares really, they all win. We recognize all of these women in our own Moms. The reality is that modern day Mom is all of the above. Shes a Chef, a Baker, Home maintenance, Child Psychiatrist, Cab Driver, Problem Solver, Financier. Today is their day, maybe everyday should be dedicated to them. For all the men out there, take heed, this is one day that’s not yours and its not up for discussion.